Weekly Report #87 - We hosted our own Pokémon wedding and also held an exhibition for it.

Preface#

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This article is a record and reflection on life from 2025-02-03 to 2025-03-18.

Long time no see.

These past few weeks may have been the most fulfilling in terms of life experiences and emotions in recent years. Since the end of last year, I have been planning the wedding and exhibition in Hangzhou, and just completed the return banquet in Inner Mongolia last weekend. It seems I haven't even had a few hours to sit down and write. But there is so much to say, and I finally found the time to update the weekly report.

About the Wedding#

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Perhaps at this age, over the past two years, I have attended four weddings of friends/classmates of the same age and served as a groomsman twice, which allowed me to closely observe various forms of weddings and ceremonies.

Since the proposal in early December last year Proposal, my senior and I have discussed our ideas about the wedding many times.

At first, we seemed unable to understand and accept the meaning of a wedding, always feeling it was more like a performative formality. Friends and family come from all over, but the scene may be so busy that there isn't even time to have a proper conversation. After the excitement and noise, it might be hard to leave anything behind.

So initially, we thought of another way: we wanted to wear veils and visit some long-lost friends across the country. They might already be at various stages of life and love, and we wanted to interview them about their feelings on marriage and love, turning this "trip" into a documentary, and finally holding a small thank-you banquet to show the video.

We actually started to put this into practice. The first stop was Shanghai, where we met a few friends and shot some footage, but after returning, I always felt a bit frustrated. It seemed a bit too idealistic; the atmosphere at the dinner table was great after a long separation, but the depth of conversation often fell short, making it hard to capture their most genuine feelings about love in just a few short sentences. Coupled with the energy drain from running around on weekends, I lost more than half of my confidence in this whole idea after just the first week.

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Later, another idea emerged. My senior has painted many pictures over the years, and I have also captured some images with my camera. Why not plan a personal exhibition, connecting our perspectives and self-expressions into two lines?

For this seemingly spontaneous idea, we had little confidence. Professional curators seemed reluctant to take on such overly personal exhibitions, and friends we asked found it hard to coordinate due to their own work schedules. In the end, they all suggested finding a wedding planner to help with the planning and execution. Since we needed to find a wedding planner anyway and would have a banquet, we thought, why not just hold a wedding? Thus, we found ourselves back at square one.

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Even so, we still retained some of our own insistences. The wedding adopted a Pokémon/Pikachu theme; we only kept one traditional element, the tea ceremony, which our parents felt was important, while canceling other elements like the bride's escort and wedding car; we didn't hire a host but instead hosted it ourselves, and we chose all the processes and even the background music for each segment.

After quickly finalizing the wedding planner, hotel, photography, wedding dress, and makeup, we focused more of our thoughts and energy on the design of the wedding and exhibition itself. Fortunately, we found a Western restaurant that supported our ideas after discussing them with the owner. She even suggested we open on Valentine's Day, which would better showcase the theme related to love and also warm up for our wedding day.

However, at first, we weren't very clear about what we ultimately wanted to present in the exhibition. After several planning discussions with the wedding planner, there wasn't much progress. We felt that we were merely showcasing some of our love stories, which felt far from a more socially meaningful exhibition. Until one night, less than a week before the exhibition, while reorganizing the plan, I realized I still couldn't accept a compromise, and a similar sense of frustration gradually arose.

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My senior noticed my gloominess. Despite her love for going to bed early, she took her sketchbook and we started to sort out the entire design of the exhibition together until late at night, and slowly, it began to take shape. After discussing the plan with the wedding planner a few more times, we finally completed the setup just before Valentine's Day.

In the following days, we created an online website for the exhibition — 「yuloveboyi.com」, allowing friends who couldn't attend in person to understand what we wanted to express through this website.

The wedding was much livelier than we had imagined, with many friends and family coming from various places. We met some colleagues we had worked with for a long time but had never met in person, and even open-source big names like Anthony Fu and Bread came to the exhibition and wedding.

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In all the unknown corners

Life happens to each

People randomly gather together

And then scatter to various places

Celebrating the joyous events

Thus, the lights come on

A friend wrote this to me when my senior and I exchanged vows on site.

I really like the movies 「Groundhog Day」 and 「It's a Wonderful Life」 which have similar scenes, echoing what we wanted to express in the theme of our exhibition. Two ordinary people in the world live their lives, pushed forward by the tide of society in confusion, but they also have their own circles and worlds painted with their brushes, occasionally intersecting and sometimes separating.

The small acts of kindness and the little things we accumulate in our daily lives and throughout our lives eventually converge into a point, just like the party at the end of Groundhog Day, where Phil and everyone meet in the cycle of life, having either given kindness or formed connections. Ultimately, we stand at the center of life, with everyone coming for us, celebrating together, tears in our eyes.

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The most common feedback we received after the wedding was, "This wedding is different from any I've attended before; it's very touching." While we were happy, we were also a bit puzzled. In fact, we still had a traditional wedding; simplifying the process or hosting it ourselves is no longer a novelty. So what was ultimately different in everyone's eyes?

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We thought for a long time and came up with the answer — "Love" has become a scarce commodity in this society. This love is not just about romantic love but a broader love for life, a yearning for beauty, and kindness towards others.

Moreover, expressing "love" is even more precious. Perhaps we just showcased a corner of our lives, yet it was enough to touch people's hearts. We also vaguely felt that perhaps our insistence on holding such an exhibition was a way to convey love itself.

It has been a few weeks since the wedding, and the energy it brought still lingers. I think back to the previous struggles and doubts about the significance of doing this, and now I realize that perhaps those were just excuses. Allowing beautiful things to happen is the most important meaning of life.

We hired a videographer to record our wedding and exhibition throughout, and it will be in a documentary style. Once the editing is complete, we will upload it to various platforms, so stay tuned.

Interesting Things and Items#

Inputs#

Although most interesting inputs will automatically sync in the 「Yu's Life」 Telegram channel, I still selected a portion to list here, making it feel more like a newsletter. Additionally, I built a microblog using Telegram Channel messages as content sources — 「daily.pseudoyu.com」, making it easier to browse.

Favorites#

Articles#

A Weekend Note on Tiantai Mountain Guoqing Temple, finally caught my senior updating her article!
How I Use Apple Notes for Note-taking, I tried it for a while, but eventually switched to Obsidian due to markdown support, while keeping the same PARA structure and ideas.
A Small Thing About Helping, a sincere and moving share that also inspired the desire to do some random kindness.
A Decade Later, A Decade Lost, touched.
Post 43: Intentionally Making Close Friends, all emotions/relationships need to be "nurtured" with care.
The Ultimate Guide to MCP, I had a preliminary experience with Cursor's MCP but didn't use it for production-level purposes; I'm curious about future application scenarios.
Mist - 静かな森, I enjoy reading Innei's notes, reminding me that I should update the weekly report this weekend.
React Libraries for 2025, checking out what’s currently being used in frontend development 👀
My First Chrome Extension and Thoughts on the AI Era, the ability to write code has been perfectly realized in the LLMs era, but there are indeed more and more cases of being "half-informed" about the principles.
Cursor for Large Projects, many tasks in my recent work have already been handled by Cursor, learning to optimize the usage methods.

Videos#

Podcasts#

Books#

Basement Notes, a bit challenging to read.
100 Basics, currently reading.
Mr. Iwata, this is probably why I will always love Nintendo; I can feel the transmission of joy.

Movies#

Like Father, Like Son, I like Hiroshi Kore-eda's rhythm and visuals, but this film's inner transitions and expressiveness are quite average, and its exploration of father-son relationships is only superficial.
Good Things, both the topic and filming techniques are stunning, and it touches on social issues like feminism; "Integrity, bravery, and readership" also somehow ignited something in me.
Love Myth, I really liked it. The same director as "Good Things," similar narrative style, but more everyday and restrained, allowing for a deeper sense of the core. Having just held the exhibition, I felt even more about life and personal expression.
All In, the plot is a bit childish, but the tension and oppression are well rendered, plus it gives a unique sense of realism for someone in my industry who often stays in Thailand 🤣

Anime#

League of Legends: Arcane Season 2, the quality is still very high.
The Reincarnation of the Strongest Exorcist in Another World, I followed it weekly during serialization, and I just finished the last two episodes these days. The setting is great, and the pacing is comfortable, making it a very calming series.
Rick and Morty Season 6, catching up.

Series#

Life Division Technique Season 2, currently watching.
Not Kind Enough Us, the perspective shifts and coincidences in the first two episodes are somewhat novel, but the plot direction gradually becomes absurd, feeling a bit forced at the end, quite average.
Memoirs of Shen Zui, it's good for understanding military history, but the inevitable self-glorification in the autobiography and many political confessions become tiring after a while.
The Last of Us Season 1, the pacing is great, and the independent storylines in the first few episodes are very exciting, making me want to learn more about the game.
My Altay, I think it could still get four stars if it weren't for the eighth episode; the forced conflict at the end felt unnecessary.