Weekly Report #81 - Engaged -> Married The Scale of Time

Preface#

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This article is a record and reflection on life from 2024-12-09 to 2024-12-28.

~~I've been busy with the wedding report and have delayed it.~~

Engaged -> Married#

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Got married today and can’t wait to share my life with you forever.

Recently, the most common phrase I've heard around me is — "You guys are so fast."

Indeed, from proposing in early December, to intensively communicating with various aspects of the wedding, and then getting the marriage certificate on Christmas Eve, it seems everything happened in just one month. At first, there was quite a bit of confusion and uncertainty, and I was even stressed enough to be sick for nearly half a month. However, as I started using Things and Obsidian to plan and take meeting notes, managing it like a project, things gradually became clearer. Although it still feels rushed, I am starting to enjoy the process.

The wedding is set for early next year, and we began a 100-day extreme preparation from the beginning of the month. Fortunately, my parents do not interfere with our plans, allowing some ideas to be realized as we envisioned, such as a Pokémon theme, cutting out most of the wedding segments, not hiring a host but doing it ourselves, a smoke-free banquet, not taking wedding photos but opting for more casual shoots, and planning something interesting that fulfills my parents' wishes while retaining my own expectations.

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On the day we got the marriage certificate, I hired a film photographer to take some photos in a nearby park. I really liked the style, and since there are too many pictures, I will post a separate photo essay as a keepsake.

The Scale of Time#

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Last weekend, I returned to Hong Kong with my senior to purchase some items. Although I've been back to Hong Kong a few times over the past two years for various events, this time I deeply felt that it has been four years since I first came to Hong Kong for school and met my senior.

Yes, it has been four years.

Just a couple of days ago, a good friend and college roommate sent me some photos from when we first arrived at school in 2015 for military training, saying they were reflecting on how they had spent the last ten years in a daze. At that time, I had just left home for a strange city, full of youthful innocence, and then went through classes, graduation, work, and now this.

For me, there’s nothing to regret about these ten years. I’ve always felt that life is continuous; the gains and losses from back then have all internalized and shaped the next stage of myself. Missing any experience might lead to a completely different outcome.

Just like in the movie "About Time," as we move further into life, we accumulate more things that we cannot let go of. Even if we truly had the ability to go back in time, we might not change anything.

However, when the scale of time is laid out before us, it can still be a bit sad.

Sometimes, during casual chats with my senior, I unconsciously say things like, "I ran the 1000 meters in the middle school physical exam in 3 minutes and 19 seconds, and I've never surpassed that time since," or "When I was in college, I could manage multiple things in the studio, but now my energy isn't as abundant as before." My senior sometimes jokes that reminiscing about past glories means we are approaching middle age.

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Slowly, I am actually experiencing a complete life. After enduring the darkest moments of my grandmother's illness and passing, I unexpectedly faced the sudden death of my cousin, who grew up with me, losing so much in just six months; I see my parents visibly aging day by day, and my own body and state are starting to show various issues; I met the person I love, raised two cats, got engaged, and married.

One cannot fight against time. Thinking about this always brings a bit of sadness, but when recalling the past, I can only envy that bright youth from before, and then continue to live seriously in the present, somewhat like using my current efforts to redeem my future self.

Interesting Things and Items#

Open Source#

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It's my second year working full-time in open source, and I've become much happier.

Getting into Fujifilm#

I've been using the Sony A7M3 for seven years. Although it's sufficient, I always feel a heavy mental burden when going out to take photos, and I often accumulate a lot of material without editing. As a result, I've visited many places in the past two years but haven't left many photos, and it wasn't until I bought the Sony ZV1 Vlog camera that I started capturing more images.

Having long passed the age of pursuing and fiddling with parameters, I just want to take more photos. So this time in Hong Kong, I finally got into Fujifilm and bought a Fujifilm X100VI, a compact camera that can basically eliminate the need for editing with its colors and built-in film simulations. I hope to take more photos in the coming year.

Input#

Although most interesting inputs will automatically sync to the "Yu's Life" Telegram channel, I still selected a portion to list here, making it feel more like a newsletter. Additionally, I built a microblog using the Telegram Channel messages as content sources — "daily.pseudoyu.com," which makes browsing more convenient.

Books#

The Complete Guide to Self-Study, a guide that has no highlights in content or expression, wasting a few precious hours of life 😶‍🌫️
The Sugar Control Revolution, currently reading.

Collections#

Articles#

Podcasts#

No.66 Talking with the Follow Team about RSS Product Design, Technology Selection, and Personal Growth